Um.
Let’s set this shit straight, shall we?
Oxytocin is a chemical released in the brain that helps with emotional bonding and trust. It’s a hormone that makes people feel all lovey dovey. This hormone is released by males and females when you have an orgasm, touching, giving birth, breastfeeding, and other pleasurable activities (such as petting your dog, cuddling, hugging, masturbating, etc).
Oxytocin doesn’t connect you to someone forever. Hormones are an effect that linger for a little while (anything from a few hours to a few days) and then goes away until the next surge. A woman will not feel forever attached and “mentally messed up” for the rest of her life if she has sex with someone who she later splits with. What a pile of bullshit.
This post reinforces 2 myths:
MYTH: That women must “save” herself for “the one”
REALITY: If a woman wants to have sex with only 1 person in her lifetime, that’s her decision…and anybody who thinks it’s OK to scare her into that decision can seriously go fuck themselves.MYTH: Men can’t feel emotionally connected to anyone until they have kids.
FACT: Men can connect emotionally just like women can and they experience oxytocin release as well. This myth also implies that if a woman wants to connect to her male partner, they must have kids to do so.Further, oxytocin is not ”nature’s way” of telling us to only have sex with one person. In our primitive history, humans were rarely monogamous. In recent centuries, society has taken to forcing people (and apparently, scaring them) into only having sex with 1 person, but in reality, this almost never happens. The vast majority of people have sex with more than 1 person in their lifetime.
And guess what? None of us are “mentally messed up” because of it.
Also an interesting fact here: when a man and a woman kiss, man’s level of Oxytocin rises while woman’s lowers
http://kittywampus.wordpress.com/2009/02/16/a-kiss-is-just-a-kiss-men-women-and-oxytocin/
Let’s get some science up in this bitch, shall we?
Sometimes I have the time and patience to get from an idea to a fully fleshed-out, penciled, inked and coloured comic.
Sometimes I don’t.
I got called overreacting several times when I am touched by men and even women that I don’t know without my permission and I start panicking in response. No, this is not over-reacting, this is society teaching us girls to always be on the lookout and to not trust anyone because there is always, no matter how tiny, the possible that you might be raped or murdered or kidnapped because you are a girl traveling alone. So to hell with your jokes, this is a thing that is happening to us and what the public teaches us girls to constantly be in fear of our safety, of acceptance and everything else.
(via lady-writes)
#3 in my series “safety first”
breathplay safe! remember, you shouldn’t be strangling your partner- they should be able to gasp for air. pay attention and remember to also use a safety hand signal… the double pinch is a good one!
THIS IS SO HELPFUL BABY LOOK
Reasons I don’t like this:
1. The color scale is bullshit. It’s not related to real strangulation (it doesn’t work for everyone to tell how much you are hurting them based on the color of their skin), nor does it take into account anyone whose skin isn’t pale.
2. Damage from strangulation is often not visible - either from color of the face during or after, bruising (often there isn’t any), and blood vessels broken in the eyes.
Reasons I do like this:
1. Consensual strangulation is something that totally needs discussion and negotiation beforehand.
2. The commentary is more helpful than the picture. Gasping is good, you don’t want air flow completely restricted. Taking breaks is important. And developing safety hand signals is an awesome suggestion, too.
(via ambidextrously-erotic)
